One of those days.. 

One of those days when you want to just sit in your balcony with a cup of coffee and contemplate about your life.

When you want to just get over all your regrets and start things all over again, no matter how ugly your past was or how destructive your present is.

When you want to answer all the questions that you procrastinated upon earlier in the hope of getting answers as the time passes by.

When instead of doubting your abilities you take pride in them.

When you sit calmly with a clear mind and re think your goals.

When you ask yourself if not now then when?

When you give yourself the second chance that you deserve.

When you look at the trees and think how beautiful everything is and how it’s just the perspective that matters.

When you realise it’s never too late to start things all over again. And the perfect time to do that would be right at this moment. Now.

When you take the last sip of tea with a whole new perspective.
When you start being yourself.

One of those days.


Such days don’t come often. Don’t miss out on them. Collect the inspiration, put some dedication, make your own tea. Life isn’t short. It’s long. And you deserve to live it with all the happiness. The unexamined life is not worth living.

Cheers!! 

Sarahah: Honest Feedback App or playground for Bullies?

So if you are not living under the rock,  you must be aware of this fad called Sarahah. The experimental app which was conceptualised for employees to give honest feedback to their bosses without revealing their identity by a Saudi Arab developer took a new turn when it got picked up by people or so to say by their insecurities. 

I too downloaded this app and talked to many users just to understand how people react when they are being given this superpower to say whatever they want to without revealing their identity. 

Humans have since long loved to indulge in gossip, which is why this app got such a big boost. However, while everybody wants to know gossip, nobody wants to be the gossip. Things turn ugly when you are at the receiving end of such trolls.
And while some users find that Sarahah and honesty apps like it deliver self-esteem boasting experience, cyberbullying is also rife as people feel free to be their worst selves in the aod of anonymity because of which these services are often plagued by bullying and threats of violence.

I will not ask you to succumb to my judgment of the app and instead take a detached stand for the sake of the argument. Assuming that the app doesn’t take the form of cyber bullying and one receives only genuine messages of appreciation and gratitude; of people professing their affection to you. But what will be the point of such messages when you cannot know who has sent it, not to forget there is no way to connect with your secret admirer unless of course, you announce it publicly over social media handles. But here’s another catch—even then it depends on the secret admirer whether he wants to reveal himself to you or not. Doesn’t this make the entire argument a little counter-productive?

Another fact that cannot be denied here is that once you are in, the freedom to hide behind a cloak of anonymity and not be associated whatsoever with your real-world identity is strangely alluring.  This provides people with a good opportunity to revel on opinions that they otherwise wouldn’t mouth, of course, in an un-accountable manner or maybe in the form of intended ‘joke’.

However, the other, more shattering aspect leads to hatred being embedded into the mainstream culture. Judgment, fear, and its common companion-hostility/violence are becoming a normalized part of our thought-process, eventually also seeking into everyday conversations. It is in this context that can be said that anonymous messaging apps like Sarahah reflect everything that is wrong with our society- it has transformed into a breeding ground for hostile behavior and opinions


Social Media has its downside and we have seen it time and again. The Blue Whale Challenge is also a clear example of how social media and the Internet can make things ugly. For a person suffering from low self-esteem, the app can have huge implications.

Would we really want to indulge in that?

Hey there. 

Phew.

Finally thought of writing something after like forever. Well, that is not completely true. I have thought of writing quite a few times in these two-three months, but something or the other always came up. So anyway, the new thing about this blog post is that it’s being written from Rudrapur. Rest others were written from Delhi. Yes, it’s been over a year since I have shifted.

Apart from the IP address, a lot of other things have changed too. While I am writing this, I am thinking of drinking a cup of coffee. I might go to kitchen and make one for myself. I might as well make a small sandwich too. Or go for a walk at 1 in the night. This never used to happen in Delhi since I was living with my parents. So basically I am building this whole thing up to finish this paragraph with the theme of this blog post: Independence.

Independence comes at a price. Sometimes, the price is washing your own undies and making your own tea and sometimes, the price is something else. Something bigger. I don’t know what. When I was in Delhi, my thoughts about living somewhere else were completely different. I thought I would go there, enjoy my new job,  live like Pyar Ka Punchnama boys. But once you actually start living out, you realize how naive you were and how it’s a hundred times more challenging than what it looked like from Delhi. Shifting to a completely new place is not always easy. It never was. You need to start sailing your boat in a different way, in a different direction, in a different ocean. Being a good sailor won’t matter much, you will always, always need some time to adjust. You’ll always face some challenges.

… And here I am, adjusting. Challenging myself every day. Waking up daily, making my own tea, cleaning my own room, and perhaps, trying to survive, in my own funny way. It’s not easy, but I am managing. And that’s probably all that matters, I guess, in the end, it’s us who need to manage our own shit.

Life isn’t easy. I have seen failure too and I am in the right position to say that, that life really isn’t easy. What makes it easy is the way how we conduct ourselves in different situations. I still think that had I celebrated my failure, for more time instead of started panicking and searching for an alternative; Life would have been different. 

This was the first time when i ever lived on my own, i was lucky that I was surrounded by the right kind of people, but I know I won’t be lucky always. No one can be. What you have is the reality. You can’t change that. But what will happen next is in your hands. So, sail your boats, amigos, for tomorrow is a much better day than today and the failure of yesterday will matter (in a good way) a few years later. Stop waiting for that ‘something’ you don’t know about.

One thing I know for sure is that apart from your family there is no one who really understands you. So, if you are still trying to find a comfort zone, that ‘someone’ to whom you can look up to when you are down, then you’re bullshitting yourself. You’re bullshitting the whole concept of ‘independence’ for which you left your city and your parents in the first place. For me, independence is all about believing in yourself when you know that there is no one else who believes in you, it’s about getting up quickly whenever life kicks you in the teeth, it’s about travelling to random places and connecting with strangers instead of meeting the same group of friends all the time. Maybe I am wrong, but this is the definition I believe in. Let’s see if someone proves me wrong.

It’s getting long and I don’t know how to end this post so I am ending it now. Adios.

Start Now and Don’t Stop!

Many a time in our lives we don’t do things we wanted to because in our head we already have given up on the same as we think we are incapable, too late to start or any other lame excuse just doesn’t let us do it.

Things won’t be same only if we have the courage to START

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“Start now. Start where you are. Start with fear. Start with pain. Start with doubt. Start with hands shaking. Start with voice trembling but start. Start and don’t stop. Start where you are, with what you have. Just … start.”

—Ijeoma Umebinyuo

Jatin Khurana

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Mid Twenty Crisis!

Everybody has its own problems in life, So do I.

Undergoing mid twenty crisis can be cruel, to the extent that none of us had any idea whatsoever that it is happening. Then we suddenly realise that we are no longer that young to watch our favourite cartoon, make weird faces, scream loud in excitement.

Damn! All of a sudden society expect us to behave a certain way.

I’m 24 and 25 running..

Here’s what I’m doing right now..

1. Thinking of excuses for not going to office.

2. Pursuing CMA. So yeah I’m neither a complete professional nor a full time student (Worst Part)

3. My life is revolving around the clients I do tax for and my family and friends.

4. Dreads each time I open facebook and when I do, seeing engagement and marriage pictures of my friends and juniors who are clearly 2-3 younger than me.

5. WhatsApp has become any other app for me. It’s going out of mobile soon. 

6. Its been a while i went on a date so i am sucking on that part too. Don’t even have time to look out for someone compatible.

7. Sitting on Twitter the whole day that my mom has sworn to burn my laptop and mobile.

8. Eating. Eating. More eating.

9. No exercise. No exercise. What is exercise?

10. Wondering if life is worth all the bullshit?

11. Wishes to pack my bags and run away into a unicorn land.

Life’s not Perfect But it’s not bad either. I am dealing it in my own way and will sail it through.

Cheers 🙂

Jatin Khurana

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Philosophy of LIFE!

We often don’t realise many things in life when we actualy need to and learn those lessons later on in life.

Here are some of them!

1) Time passes much more quickly than you realize.

2) If you don’t take care of your body early then it won’t take care of you later. Your world becomes smaller each day as you lose mobility, continence and sight 

3) Sex and beauty fades, but intimacy and friendship grows

4) People are far more important than any other thing in your life. No hobby, interest, book, or work is going to be as important to you as the people you spend time with as you get older. 

5) Money talks. It says “Goodbye”. If you didn’t plan financially for your old age when you are young you will wish you had. 

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6) Any seeds you planted in the past, either good or bad, will begin to bear fruit and affect the quality of your life as you get older for the better or the worse

7) Jealousy is a wasted emotion. People you hate are going to succeed; people you like are going to sometimes do better than you did. Kids are going to be smarter and quicker than you are. Accept it with grace.

8)  You will badly regret the things you DIDN’T do far more than the things you did that were “wrong” — the girl you didn’t ask out to; the trip you didn’t take; the time you could have helped someone. If you get the chance – do it. You may never get the chance again.

9) Every day you wake up is a victory.
Bonus: It’s never too late to become what you wanted to be or might have been if you START RIGHT NOW!

10) What people think of you is none of your business. Ignore them, whether it is good or bad, and keep your eyes on your goals. The biggest liar in the world is “They say…”.

So,

Live Everday.. Laugh Everday.. Love beyond words !!

Cheers !

Jatin Khurana

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What Men Fears The Most?

The wave of pseudo-feminism running across the country.

(I am writing based on what happened in front of my eyes yesterday)

My Daily routine these days include a lot of travelling and thankfully by Delhi Metro (One of the best thing happend to delhi off late to save us from disastrous traffic jams).

Yesterday I boarded the metro and sat down comfortably but afterwards offered my seat to old lady and stood beside her.

Next to her, a young couple was sitting in the seat, which was reserved for women. They seemed from some small town or village. They were carrying a baby, 5 or 6 months old. The couple was facing some problem, it seemed, carrying the baby as the baby was constantly crying( may be fever or something, I guess). Even the mother was constantly not able to hold the baby due to inexperience or something else. They were constantly trying to calm the baby down, with a lot of difficulty, but the baby kept crying.

After 10-15 minutes a lady, around 25, boarded the metro. She went straight to the seat where the couple was and asked the guy to stand up and give her the seat. The guy tried to show her his situation but she didn’t even bother about. Finally he had to give her the seat, while the baby was still crying.

The guy came and stood besides me while giving a very sorry look to his wife and baby.

After looking at this, I realised the fear men here have in the name of all that pseudo-feminism or pseudo-women empowerment.

Just a thought…. 🙂

Jatin Khurana

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Travel Diaries!!

To travel is to take journey into yourself and i just did that (Again).

Too Tired to right anything, Let pictures do the talking.

Place : Dhansar, Near Jammu

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There was something which fascinated me to click this one.

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Need i say anything more !! I think NO 🙂

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I wish i could have spent some more time but nevertheless it was fun.

Cheers !!

Jatin Khurana

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Talvar : The Thrilling Case Reopens!!

Back in 2008, We all were shell shocked with one case. It wasn’t just any other case of double murder but the allegations made it outrageous. Police alleged that one doctor couple has apparently killed their only daughter. Nobody could believe this so do i. How can an educated father be involved in heinous act like Honour Killing?. We all became so emotionally attached with the case. Never do we miss even a single update on the case be it by watching news or reading any article.

The one thing we all wanted to know was WHO KILLED AARUSHI AND HEMRAJ?

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In 2015, The case reopens again. Don’t be shocked, I am talking about the movie Talvar directed by meghna gulzar.

From the opening scene till the end i was glued to my seat. It was a nostalgia of all the feelings i have experienced during the original case trial. This movie will send you chills down your spine with its beautiful handling of such sensitive topic.
Depiction of case trapped in Politics and Personal Vendetta is something to look for. This movie will force you to again think about the facts of the case and at the end you will be able to decide by yourself who actually was the culprit. The whole team has done such a great job by sticking to the true facts and sheer brilliance execution. Special mention to the execution as we all were well aware of the case so story sometimes become predictable but i never felt any dull moment in the movie. Coming to actors, This movie stars Irrfan Khan, Konkona Sen, Tabu, Neeraj Kabi and Sohum Shah in lead roles. All the actors did a phenomenal job and justified their part. Irrfan has once again entertained us with his amazing and effortless acting. Konkona Sen has made a great comeback too. Special mention to the looks of the character that made it so close to the real case. It’s been 5 hours i have watched the movie but believe me i just couldn’t let this off my mind. Such is the impact.
Truly moved by one dialogue : ” Kisi Begunah Ko Saza Milne Se Acha Hai, 10 Gunahgaar Choot Jaye. ”

If you still haven’t watched this movie, go book the tickets today as this is a movie you should NOT miss. If you are lucky enough like me then Do comment and let me know what do you think of it. So hurry up and book your tickets and Watch #Talvar. Cheers! 🙂

PS: Here is the link of the trailer to let you know what’s in the store for you.

Talvar Trailer

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